my motor has locked up. im pretty sure my starter bendix has stuck in my flywheel. however i cannot remove the starter, i cant get a wrench around one of the bolts. is there a trick to removing the starter, or does the engine have to be pulled?

First disconnect the battery
remove the right rear wheel and jack up the car, and support with stands.
then disconnect the terminals from the starter
Then using a 17mm wrench, unscrew the top nut from inside the engine bay on the firewall.
Then unscrew the bottom.

The starter should pull right out.